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Advice to fourteen-year-old me

I graduated from high school less than a week ago. Shortly before that, I met up with two of my friends and we opened a time capsule we had created the day we graduated from 8th grade four years ago. We also recreated some pictures from the same day.

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Included in the time capsule were some embarrassing letters we had written to our future (now present) selves. My letter mostly comprised of me talking about how I wanted to become an amazing dancer and a trail-blazing activist. Here's what I have to say in response to little fourteen-year-old me.

Dear fourteen year old me, 

Thanks for working so hard 

Sometimes I look back at how hard you worked and I'm still kind of in awe. It wasn't in the "working-hard-so-people-see-you're-working-hard" way, either. You genuinely worked your butt off in ballet and you didn't even stop long enough to realize it. Thanks for that. 

Remember though, hard work does not guarantee desired results 

This sucks but it's the truth. I know you think that if you work as hard as humanely possible everything has to work out. But it won't. And sometimes you won't have any idea why, but that's just how it happens. It doesn't mean you slacked off. It just means your life story is turning out to be a bit less straight forward than you thought. 

The people you admire are not gods 

You can look up to someone without worshipping, and you can care for someone without following. Nobody is right all the time in everything they say or do. 

Being healthy (and going to bed early) is always cool 

You don't have to choose between being an intense, hard worker and being a well-rounded person who takes care of yourself. The latter is not the easy way out, in fact, it can be quite a challenge. 

Thanks for being recklessly creative 

And writing really, really bad poetry. And taking photos with your hot pink point-and-shoot camera. And writing novels in composition notebooks. Thanks for creating things without stopping to constantly worry if they're good enough. This won't last forever. 

And keep in mind: things will get better

Not in the way you think. You won't be a bestselling author at age 17, or a famous activist, or an apprentice at some prestigious ballet company. But in other ways that you won't really understand, things will get better. 

Sincerely, 18-year-old Julia 



15 comments

  1. What a lovely post! As a 35 year old myself, I can only tell you only one thing: things will only get better and your life will be great as you get old! You will learn and be mature and you can accomplish so many things in your life :)

    Yiota
    Pinkdaisyloves.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you Yiota! And thanks for the advice, that's very wise :)

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  2. What a lovely post! As a 35 year old myself, I can only tell you only one thing: things will only get better and your life will be great as you get old! You will learn and be mature and you can accomplish so many things in your life :)

    Yiota
    Pinkdaisyloves.blogspot.com

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  3. Such a nice post, thanks for sharing

    Happy Friday Doll! Kisses,
    BLOG | TAISLANY

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  4. Julia, this was such an adorably beautiful post! I am in AWE of the time capsule photo recreation. Makes me want to do this, too!!

    Congratulations on graduating high school! <3

    MAY | WWW.THEMAYDEN.COM

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    1. Thank you so much, May! You should make one, time capsules are pretty fun.

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  5. What a beautiful post and wow, you girls look beautiful! The time capsule photo recreation is a great touch, maybe it would be something that you guys can do again in 5 or 10 years time? It would be really interesting to see.

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

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    1. Thank you, Shireen! And yeah, we hope to to it once we graduate college also :)

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  6. aww what a cute post!

    Hannah xx
    Raspberry Kitsch | UK Fashion & Lifestyle Blog

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  7. This is great advice. What a cute idea too! I wrote a letter to myself when I ended grade 8 and I read it when I graduated from high school. It wasn't special, it was mostly about my favourite colour and such, but it was nice to have it oddly enough. Thank you for sharing!
    Leandra
    www.LovelyLea.net

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    1. Thanks Leandra! It really is a fun thing to do, to look back on!

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  8. Congratulations on graduating High School! I wish you a great journey from now on. I'm a new reader and I love the advice you would give your 14-year-old self. One of my "mottos" is that "things will get better." Life for me, has been a roller coaster being a 25 year old college student who were quite unorthodox in what "adulting" should be. I did not follow a certain "sure-fire" path and quite stressed that the clock was ticking. However, I am now in a state of mind, at peace with who I am and yes, things got better.

    I enjoy reading your blog and looking forward to get to know you more through your writings. Have a great week!


    Ron

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    1. Thank you for your kind words, Ron! Yeah I don't think anyone really has a sure path, it (life) often happens in ways be least expect. I'm glad things got better for you! Thank you for reading.

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