Without further ado, here are some of my advice greatest-hits:
|happy new year from a little antique post-card and a polaroid of me trying to be vintage-y|
first, remember that 2016 had both good and bad parts
I know there's a lot of buzz lately about how 2016 was the worst year ever. There were a lot of sucky things that happened, let's be real, but there were good moments too. Take a minute to reflect on those. Be happy that they happened.
at the end of 2017, you will undoubtedly feel the same way
exactly one year from now I'll probably be writing another post saying, "2017 had both good and bad parts." It won't be perfect, ladies and gentlemen. No matter how hard you try, stupid and awful things will happen. But good things will happen too.
When you wake up on Jan 1st, you'll still be you
If your room is messy when you go to sleep, it'll still be messy when you wake up on January 1st. Same goes for your life. And your brain. And your plans, and relationships, and desk drawers. Remember that organizing and changing these things will take time. And remember that messy things can be beautiful too. :)
Having big goals can sometimes blind you from little successes
It's fine to say, "I want to social-media my butt off and get --- followers this year," or "I want to eat super healthy" or "I want to meditate every goshdarn day." But having goals, especially ambitious ones, can sometimes make everything else feel like a failure. To avoid this, keep track of the progress you do make, no matter how small. Celebrate when you post something new each day, or drink a kale smoothie, or meditate three days in a row. You won't be perfect, but you'll make some imperfect progress each day. Remind yourself that some is one-hundred time better than none, and every teensy bit of some is gradually building into awesome.
Allow yourself to change your mind
Imagine this: It's march 27th and you suddenly decide you don't want to be a person who meditates anymore (or whatever your big 2017 goal was). Maybe it's not because you're struggling or getting tired... maybe you just feel like struggling and getting tired at something different now. "Nooooooo" you may think. "Giving up is a fatal sin! I'm stronger than that!" Yeah, well, no you aren't. Not in every single thing. Changing your mind is the sort of thing you can't possibly fathom until it happens to you. And if it does, at least hear it out.
No amount of planning will ever make things happen
This is something I like to write about a lot, because I think about it a lot. I have a sort of plan addiction. But when it comes to doing the stuff that I plan, there's always this huge, metaphorical rock wall that blocks my way. No amount of planning will get me over that wall. But you know what will? Climbing.
Let yourself be happy now
As you begin 2017, don't say "this will be the best year ever because I will *insert lofty goal here*." Instead, tell yourself "this is the best year ever because of who I am/ what I'm doing right now." It might feel like a lie. It feels like a bit of a lie to me right now, too. But tell yourself that each day, and search for a little thing that makes it true. Maybe this year is the best year ever because I bought some new clothes and I've been looking really fab in 2017. Or because even though stuff is hard, I love that I'm being so creative and thoughtful. As you work on your goals and try new things, you'll have more and more little reasons. Maybe by December, with 365 little reasons in your pocket, it'll really start to feel true.
Happy New Year!!! Have any other important piece of 2017 advice? Tell me below!