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Does anyone really care? || insecurities of the small blogger

So about a million years ago (in July) I wrote a post called "worries from a blogging newbie" in which I basically talked about my various insecurities as a blogger who was just starting out. Now, in January, it feels like everything has changed since then. My website has changed, my blog philosophy (for lack of a better word?) has changed like 3 times already....

... And yet, I still feel like a newbie.



I still feel like I'm not the real thing yet, like I don't have a concrete enough plan, a concrete enough schedule, or a concrete enough niche. I don't have that many page views, or that many followers. Even if I have more than I used to.

Anyways, I wanted to revisit the idea of blogging insecurities (because I think we all have them), but this time not strictly from the point of view of a newbie. Just from the point of view of a small-ish blogger who still doesn't know quite what she's doing, and still doesn't feel quite real.


Anyways, here is one of my (many, many, many) blogging worries:

I want people to care a lot. But do they? 

Okay, so in the logical part of my brain I know people care about my blog. I know my friends and family care about it, because they care about me. And I know that fellow bloggers often like the things I write, and comment about how I made them think or feel something. I love that. But I also know, as a blogger, that the majority of us read and comment on others' blogs with the hope that they'll read and comment on our own. We network with kindness, so to speak. Is this a bad thing? Nooooo. In fact I think it's a really, really good thing, because it builds a coalition of positivity and support within the blogging community. 

But it also makes the worry-wart part of my brain curious, sometimes. As a self-identified sappy creative, I want to make things that inspire other sappy creatives. I want to write things that help and stick and stay, not things that are merely read for the sake of leaving a comment. I find myself wondering what percentage of the people who view my blog actually like what I write. I wonder if it touches them in some way. I wonder if it seems genuinely helpful, or if it seems like pinterest click bait.
I wonder, irrationally, if anyone actually cares. 

Isn't that an annoying thought? Brains, man. They like to stress us out. It's also a useless thought, though, because thinking about it isn't going to change anything. In the end, I blog for myself, because I like it. If one other person was genuinely touched by it or found it helpful, that's awesome. If the seven people in the comments genuinely enjoyed it, even better. (Let yourself believe them. Because if they say they like your stuff, they probably really do.)

I know the whole "be-happy-even-if-nobody's-reading" thing is an easy thing to say, but a hard thing to believe. Everybody wants their blog to be a hit. Everybody wants their blog to be enjoyed by themselves and a thousand other people. Honestly, it'd be kind of weird if you didn't. 

But while you're dreaming of being a blogger among the greats, ask yourself this: 

Can something awesome that isn't seen still be awesome? 

I think it can. 

Somebody always cares, even if it's just one person. Even if that person is you. And, chances are, when you're working on something that you care about, other people will eventually start caring too. So keep caring, girl. :)

♡ Julia
P.S. this is just one of my (many) blogging worries that are to come. Keep the discussion going in the comments, and let me know what any of your other blogging worries are!

27 comments

  1. I think we all struggle with this from time to time- like if I didn't blog, would anyone miss me? Is anyone really reading?

    I just keep on keepin' on + celebrating the wins as they come: comments on posts, emails from new readers that have stumbled on my blog, etc. And I don't think anyone has it all figured out- we're all learning as we go!

    -Ashley
    Le Stylo Rouge

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  2. This is me all the time. I constantly need the reminder that the only person who NEEDS TO CARE is me. But I wonder all the time if anyone would miss me if I quit. The mind is cruel sometimes.

    Anyway, EXACTLY what I needed to read today, so thank you.

    waltzandwillow.com

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    1. I'm so glad, thanks for reading girl :)

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  3. Personally, I prefer posts that stand out (like yours), rather than "Pinterest worthy" posts. Your posts are wonderful, and they are inspiring to this fellow sappy creative. I agree with you. Just because something isn't seen by a huge number of people, doesn't mean it isn't wonderful or worth being seen. I honestly just see your blog growing more and more. Your content is genuinely fantastic.

    I've been blogging for almost four years, and I still have the same insecurities, so thank you for this. Everyone wants to reassured every once in awhile.

    Amber - yachtsmaan.blogspot.com

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    1. Aw thank you so much, Amber. That really means a lot coming from you :)

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  4. I know exactly where you're coming from! This is a fear that I harbor not just with blogging, but with everything I do. The need for validation is one of my biggest insecurities, but I agree with Amber (^^) in that I think your blog is going to grow exponentially. I genuinely love all of your content! Thank you for this post.

    - katrina // Yours Truly, Katrina

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  5. I totally know how you feel! I always wonder this myself and am constantly checking my stats. But in the end, we are putting ourselves out there to create content and that's something to celebrate about! As long as you are being you and you're having fun, that's all that matters!

    Tina
    www.justatinabit.com

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  6. I have these doubts too! I felt so uninspired last year and hardly posted, and then when I thought about posting I would think, bah no one cares! But then once I started I realized how much I enjoyed it, and that became worth it to me. Anyways, even when I didn't post for a long time I had friends saying, "I check your blog every day and you haven't posted!!!" And then I'd feel guilty and think, what if there are others who are disappointed that I'm not posting? But at least I know there is *someone* who cares, besides myself.
    I just found your blog but I really enjoyed reading this! Followed you on bloglovin :)

    Samantha Series

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    1. Aw thank you Samantha! And yeah I can totally relate. :)

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  7. I think or worry about this too sometimes, but for the record, and I know it might sound bad but there are blog posts that I usually just skim through because I can tell right away when someone took the time to write their article, or just wrote it for the sake of writing out a post. Obviously you're not in that category and when I come by your blog I always read every word because you always have something interesting to say and I see your efforts <3

    Stacey + thebambieyes.com

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    1. Aw thanks girl, that means so much to me. :) And I agree, I think everybody skims sometimes depending on what the content is. Thanks for taking the time to read. :)

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  8. I think all of us go through the same kind of feelings. I'm a pretty small blogger, even if I've been doing this for a while and I always think about validation. I agree with you, in thinking that the best validation is the fact than I enjoy doing what I'm doing and that it makes me happy.
    Dora
    http://www.adropofindigo.com/

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    1. As a small blogger too, I totally agree. thanks so much for reading, Dora :)

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  9. amazing content!!

    www.londonstylegirl.com

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  10. OMG, I identify with this so much, sometimes I spend all day thinking about stuff like this and it drives me crazy!! I guess we all just have to keep going and know that even if we inspire 1 person, that's enough for now :)

    Rosy | Sparkles of Light Blog
    My Instagram | Instagram

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    1. So true! I can spend a whole day worrying about this sort of thing too, ahha!

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  11. I think this will pass in time as you grow more confident in yourself and your blog. I used to think OMG, will people like my post, will others care enough to read it or miss me if I take blogging break but over the years, I have gained amazing friends through the blogsphere who genuinely care about me. You'll get there eventually. xx

    Shireen | Reflection of Sanity

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    1. That's very reassuring! Thanks Shireen, you're comments always make me feel better. :)

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  12. I feel like I will always be a newbie to blogging, you just always find new ways to promote or upgrade the blog and it never ends. I love your though!

    Camila,
    My Vogue Style | www.myvoguestyle.com

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    1. I so agree, Camila! Thanks for reading :)

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  13. I love the general aesthetic of your blog! This was such a great post and was definitely super relatable too. As a fellow small blogger seeing my views go from sort of high to super low within a few days is disheartening especially when you put alot of work into the daily doings/happenings of yor blog like responding to every comment, prewriting/planning posts, etc.

    - Avalon from simplyavalon.blogspot.com

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  14. Hey Julia! I completely relate to this. I only started blogging a month ago, and that same question lingers in my mind every day. Does anyone even care? Am I wasting my time and money? But I think that's the beauty of blogging. It's a journey that you get to follow to learn more about yourself by putting yourself out there. Do I think I'm going to be a successful blogger someday? I don't know. It's so much work, and we busy college students already have enough on our plates. I also worry about running out of things to write about once I leave college. But I think all of these worries are okay. Only time will tell. In the meantime, we just have to relax and go with the flow :)

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  15. I love how down to earth this post is, Julia! For me, I have been blogging for a little while now and I just transitioned into a new blog. Hardly anyone reads it and I feel like sometimes that I am blogging to no one and inspiring no one. I think the best way I get through these feelings is remembering my goals and my hopes for my blog. Great post! xx

    Jordyn Pamela // www.jordynpamela.com

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  16. Hey Julia! Love the blog design and content! I read some of your posts, and this one really hit home, not like others of yours haven't already :) I've been asking myself this same question lately- my best friend and I started a blog in February where we post stories and poems, and they've been getting all the comments, Facebook likes, and re-pins on Pinterest, while I feel like I'm just writing for me. I'm not jealous, just disappointed. Any advice? Thanks for the great post, Julia, and I'm going to go read some more posts! Hope this works this time :)

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