How to overcome your fear of sharing your blog with friends and family

Raise your hand if you still feel awkward trying to explain your blog to friends and family.

Same, girl. Same.

I remember the summer after I started my blog I went on a hunt to find other bloggers who were just starting out. Mostly because all the blogs I followed had thousands of followers and I felt like a wee little newb.

Long story short, I found a bunch of other new bloggers and even wrote a post about all the #newbie blogger worries that I encountered between myself and others. And one of the worries that resonated most with the people in the comments was the fear of sharing your blog with the people in your 'real' (non-online) life. 




I totally understand this fear. I felt so nervous about sharing my blog for the first time with all my Facebook friends that I had to turn my phone off and go take a bath after I did it. I felt super weird about being "a girl with a blog" when I headed off to college that I kinda tried to keep in a secret for a while. But since blogging is a slightly big part of my life and aspirations I wanted the people in my life to know. I just always worried people would judge me for it, like...

What I thought my IRL family/friends would think about my blog... 

  • That I'm "trying too hard" and I only have like ten followers so it's just kind of sad 
  • That I don't have my real life together enough to give other people life advice 
  • That my blog posts are just sorta arbitrary and unhelpful/ 'who even cares?'
 Now, let's take a field trip out of my chronically self-conscious brain and shed some light on what actually happened when my friends/family found out...

What my IRL family/friends actually thought about my blog... 

  • My family thought it was a good idea and helped me hash out some ideas, etc. 
  • When I first shared it with the world most of my friends were quite impressed that I created it all on my own. 
  • Several of my friends started talking about wanting to start blogs of their own. 
  • I got random Instagram DM's from people I never talked to that much telling me how much they admired my blog 
  • I had random girls at parties (who followed my blog through Instagram) saying that they always read my posts 
  • I got messages from my friends about their take/ opinion on something I had recently blogged about 
So as you can see, people are typically a lot nicer than we give them credit for. Especially the people who love and care about us.

Now, if you're still kinda hesitant about sharing your blog with your friends and family or you still feel hecka awkward whenever you try to explain it to new people (me too) here are a few pieces of advice that could help:

How to share your blog like a #girlboss who doesn't care what people think (even if you kind of do) 

Sharing your blog with friends who "get it" can be really helpful

I shared my idea for my blog with my parents/sister/close friends and even though it was slightly weird I'm super glad I did. My parents actually helped me come up with the title for my blog (which is way better than "julia blooming" or "a blooming rose" or any of my original ideas). Sharing it with your closest family/friends could actually end up being super helpful even if you don't expect it.

Have several examples of content that you're proud of before you share it widely

Friends and family (even the skeptical ones) will be more impressed and supportive of your blog if they see you've already done a lot of work on it. But if you have, like, half a post they will be more prone to thinking this is some in-vain attempt that you'll give up on in a few weeks. (You won't.)

 Just stick it in your social media bio and leave it there 

This is the no-fail strategy when it comes to discussing your blog if you're nervous about it: Don't. (Unless someone specifically says something about it to you.) Just stick it in your Instagram/ twitter bio and occasionally share it on social media. People will be aware. Sure, the people who care about you will want to talk to you about it, like "hey, you have a blog?!?" But this brings me to my next tips...

When people do talk to you about it, don't play it down 

If you're as self conscious as I am (why am I like this, ugh) you might be tempted to say, "oh yeah, haha, that's just a silly thing I do for fun sometimes" *changes subject awkwardly*. But girl, don't. If you treat it like something stupid or silly or bad, other people could approach it with that same perspective. YOU'VE WORKED HARD ON THIS. Tell them, "yeah, I have a blog. It's a lifestyle blog that I write and take photos for weekly. I really enjoy writing it!" 

 

 To help people understand how important it is to you, tell them your purpose 

If somebody is totally lost when it comes to blogs, they might not understand the scope of your blog. But if you explain why it's important to you they'll get that they should be respectful and not pass it off. Say, "I'm really interested in fashion and I'm getting a degree in English so this is a great way to practice writing about my passions," or "my blog is a great way to make some extra money, through working with brands" or "I love that I can connect with like-minded people from all over the world with my blog."

Accept compliments with a genuine 'thank you'

 This is like compliment-accepting 101. When somebody tells you that your blog is cool, say "thank you" not "aww really? it's kind of stupid." Because they're right, it is cool that you have a blog. Most people don't take the initiative to do this. You're unique and that's cool. 


Remember that some people just won't get it at first 

There's always somebody who has a preconceived notion about blogs being weird and self absorbed. But if they care about you, and if they gradually start to see that this is something you care about and it isn't going anywhere, their judgements will fade.

 

 Before long you'll just be "the girl who blogs" 

In the beginning of sharing the news with friends/family you might feel like you're "the girl who's hopelessly trying to blog." But the more you share it and the more people get used to it as just another part of who you are, you'll just be "a girl who blogs" like you are a girl who does ballet or is allergic to cats or was a child activist (just me?). 

In summary, if you kinda want to share your blog with the people in your 'real' life, it'll probably be better than you expect. With a few of these tips, you can practically make sure of it. And if you want to keep your 'blog life' (lol) and your 'real life' completely separate, that's okay too! Everybody's got their own reasons and ways. 

Do you openly share your blog with your friends or family? Let me know in the comments!

♡ Julia

31 comments

  1. Great post girl! I've been online for as long as I can remember and embarrassing put all my feelings and photos online so I don't think I have anymore shame if my friends and family see my blog LOL, but I totally get how you can feel that way!! I think your blog is amazing so you have nothing to feel weird about. And you're right that there's always going to be those who don't get it but you simply just ignore them and do your thing hahah. Although there's so many bloggers out there, it's still new and I think people who don't blog will never understand it. Just keep doing you girl!

    Stacey, thebambieyes.com

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    1. That's such a nice thing to hear, Stacey! And you're totally right... there are always people who just don't get it. But people like you all who are supportive make it all worth it :)

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  2. I feel like this one was for me. Quite a lot of my friends know about my blog, because I talk about it on social media but I still haven't shown my family. It feels like a weirdly big step, even though I'm happy to share it with strangers. Maybes I should just take the leap


    - Natalie
    www.workovereasy.com

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    1. If you find yourself wanting to, try it! It will probably be better than you think. Glad you liked the post, Natalie!!

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  3. I completelly understand it! But we don't have to be ashamed for it! Your blog is amazing and you have to be proud of it! Great post and keep work in this blog.
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    Mónica Sors
    MES VOYAGES À PARIS
    NEW POST: FEELIN' THE SUN AT MALIBU BEACH, CA

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  4. Love this, it was really awkward for me to share with people and it took me a while before I even posted it on social media. I only recently put "blogger" in my Instagram bio and that made me so nervous haha. Thanks for sharing your tips!

    http://www.myclusterofthoughts.com/

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    1. I'm so glad other people can relate to this, ahah. I always feel awkward and nervous about it too. Thanks for reading, Katherine!

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  5. This is such a great post! I realIy love these tips! I definitely felt this way when I first started blogging, but now I'm excited to share it with my friends and family!

    http://roadesque.com
    http://ourruins.com

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    1. Aw I'm so glad you've overcome the nerves! Hopefully I'll get to that point soon, I think I'm getting there. Thanks for reading!!

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  6. Amazing post! I'm going to share it all around social media. I bow down to you. Sharing my blog with people in real life was nerve-wracking and actually it still is. All of my friends and the people from university know that I have a blog and only my family members aren't aware. Or they simply didn't talk about it with me. I recently have added my blog to my personal Facebook bio and I always had a mini freak out session. I was overthinking it but hey! Nothing happened. So I guess the hardest part of all of this is just doing it, just sharing it openly to the world to see. Usually other people are too preoccupied with their life to judge yours :) x

    -Leta | The Nerdy Me

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    1. So true about people being too preoccupied with their own lives. And thanks so much, Leta! I'm glad you liked the post and thanks for being so supportive :)

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  7. Such a lovely post! I was soooo so nervous to finally share my blog with all the people I know but I never regretted it! Being a newbie in this huge blogging world might be scary, but we all start somewhere!
    And actually I just descovered your blog and I love it already! So lovely!
    -Laura
    http://brightbreezyblog.blogspot.lt/?m=1

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    1. Aw thanks so much, Laura!
      And you're so right-- we all start somewhere!

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  8. Sharing your blog with people you know IRL can be really scary, it look me 3 years before I could do it but now I'm used to sharing and it's no longer as scary :)

    Rosy | Sparkles of Light Blog
    My Instagram | Instagram

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    1. So glad you've gotten over that, Rosy! I'm still working on it ahah but it's DEFINITELy a lot better. Thanks for reading!

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  9. Great post, darling, and I think that many people can relate to this! Personally, I have never been too shy to share my blog with my family, or friends - actually, I am more than happy to do so, talk about my blog to everyone I meet, etc. The only exception being my workplace... I do a lot of blogging at work so I wouldn't want that to become anyone's focus. :P Hope you're having a great week so far, lovely! xoxo

    Kay
    http://www.shoesandglitter.com/

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    1. Thanks girl! And yeah it's different with everyone! Glad you've always found it easy to be open :)

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  10. When I read the start of this post I was like "oh crap, that's me" because I have shared my blog with barely anyone in my 'real life' for fear of what they'll think (I can be such a scaredy cat....). This post did make me feel pretty damn proud though and some people that have found my blog just compliment me on it and it makes me realise that hell, I've put a lot of time and effort into my blog and I should be really proud of it!

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

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    1. You should! I love your blog, Julia! And so glad you can relate to this post... we aren't alone, aahaha

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  11. These are such great tips- I used to be really hesitant to share my blog with anyone; I thought I'd seem silly. Totally get it!

    -Ashley
    Le Stylo Rouge

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  12. Ah, yeah... so you just got that post 100% spot on!
    I found sharing my posts with friends more daunting than complete strangers reading up on my life... also my life is totally not together, so I didn't want anyone I knew know I was blogging about my completely not perfect life! It's exactly as you said, but I thought I was alone before reading this post! Xx

    Kez | acaciasdreams.com

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    1. Glad the post was helpful, Kez! Thanks so much for reading :)

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  13. Yes. Yes. YES! Thank you for this blog post! I started my blog (and officially published it to the world) in November 2016, not too long ago. So I am wondering whether I should "come out" with my blog and tell my friends and family! So far, I've been waiting to get a bit more of a following, so I don't look so ridiculous, trying so hard for no one... I love this post though! Thanks for sharing all the reactions you've gotten! Now, I realize that I shouldn't be so scared! Maybe I'll make the leap and promote my blog on Instagram this weekend, or maybe the next weekend, haha, I am a procrastinator!

    Kim
    Simply Lovebirds

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    1. I totally get that feeling of wanting to wait till you've got more of a following. Do it whenever you're ready! And glad this post was helpful :)

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  14. I still haven't shown my friend but my family know! It's interesting to read about what your friends actually thought. Thank you for posting this it really makes me feel a little more positive about people knowing I blog.

    Lauren x Huggled

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    1. So glad, Lauren! Best of luck and remember it's totally fine either way!

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  15. I feel like this one was for me. Some members of my family know about my blog but not my husband and inlaws. I'm happy to share it with strangers. It is really difficult for me to show my blog to them.

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  16. Really made me smile! But with my family, they just laugh at it. Great tips, dear!

    Madame X
    The Flower Duet

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  17. Great tips - especially don't under play it.

    As my blog is an art/craft blog that I started while away at art school I was more inclined to share it with my family so they could see what I was up to. But it was a while before I put in on my facebook.
    But my blog actually helped me get my current job - I work in the art department of a high school and seeing all the creative things I've done helped my employers see how useful i could be in the department. It also showed them what my personality is like as I can come across as quite shy in person initially, but my blog showed them I can be quite lively!
    So it can pay to get your blog link out there :)

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