Same, girl. Same.
I remember the summer after I started my blog I went on a hunt to find other bloggers who were just starting out. Mostly because all the blogs I followed had thousands of followers and I felt like a wee little newb.
Long story short, I found a bunch of other new bloggers and even wrote a post about all the #newbie blogger worries that I encountered between myself and others. And one of the worries that resonated most with the people in the comments was the fear of sharing your blog with the people in your 'real' (non-online) life.
I totally understand this fear. I felt so nervous about sharing my blog for the first time with all my Facebook friends that I had to turn my phone off and go take a bath after I did it. I felt super weird about being "a girl with a blog" when I headed off to college that I kinda tried to keep in a secret for a while. But since blogging is a slightly big part of my life and aspirations I wanted the people in my life to know. I just always worried people would judge me for it, like...
What I thought my IRL family/friends would think about my blog...
- That I'm "trying too hard" and I only have like ten followers so it's just kind of sad
- That I don't have my real life together enough to give other people life advice
- That my blog posts are just sorta arbitrary and unhelpful/ 'who even cares?'
What my IRL family/friends actually thought about my blog...
- My family thought it was a good idea and helped me hash out some ideas, etc.
- When I first shared it with the world most of my friends were quite impressed that I created it all on my own.
- Several of my friends started talking about wanting to start blogs of their own.
- I got random Instagram DM's from people I never talked to that much telling me how much they admired my blog
- I had random girls at parties (who followed my blog through Instagram) saying that they always read my posts
- I got messages from my friends about their take/ opinion on something I had recently blogged about
Now, if you're still kinda hesitant about sharing your blog with your friends and family or you still feel hecka awkward whenever you try to explain it to new people (me too) here are a few pieces of advice that could help:
How to share your blog like a #girlboss who doesn't care what people think (even if you kind of do)
Sharing your blog with friends who "get it" can be really helpful
I shared my idea for my blog with my parents/sister/close friends and even though it was slightly weird I'm super glad I did. My parents actually helped me come up with the title for my blog (which is way better than "julia blooming" or "a blooming rose" or any of my original ideas). Sharing it with your closest family/friends could actually end up being super helpful even if you don't expect it.
Have several examples of content that you're proud of before you share it widely
Friends and family (even the skeptical ones) will be more impressed and supportive of your blog if they see you've already done a lot of work on it. But if you have, like, half a post they will be more prone to thinking this is some in-vain attempt that you'll give up on in a few weeks. (You won't.)
Just stick it in your social media bio and leave it there
This is the no-fail strategy when it comes to discussing your blog if you're nervous about it: Don't. (Unless someone specifically says something about it to you.) Just stick it in your Instagram/ twitter bio and occasionally share it on social media. People will be aware. Sure, the people who care about you will want to talk to you about it, like "hey, you have a blog?!?" But this brings me to my next tips...
When people do talk to you about it, don't play it down
If you're as self conscious as I am (why am I like this, ugh) you might be tempted to say, "oh yeah, haha, that's just a silly thing I do for fun sometimes" *changes subject awkwardly*. But girl, don't. If you treat it like something stupid or silly or bad, other people could approach it with that same perspective. YOU'VE WORKED HARD ON THIS. Tell them, "yeah, I have a blog. It's a lifestyle blog that I write and take photos for weekly. I really enjoy writing it!"
To help people understand how important it is to you, tell them your purpose
If somebody is totally lost when it comes to blogs, they might not understand the scope of your blog. But if you explain why it's important to you they'll get that they should be respectful and not pass it off. Say, "I'm really interested in fashion and I'm getting a degree in English so this is a great way to practice writing about my passions," or "my blog is a great way to make some extra money, through working with brands" or "I love that I can connect with like-minded people from all over the world with my blog."
Accept compliments with a genuine 'thank you'
This is like compliment-accepting 101. When somebody tells you that your blog is cool, say "thank you" not "aww really? it's kind of stupid." Because they're right, it is cool that you have a blog. Most people don't take the initiative to do this. You're unique and that's cool.
Remember that some people just won't get it at first
There's always somebody who has a preconceived notion about blogs being weird and self absorbed. But if they care about you, and if they gradually start to see that this is something you care about and it isn't going anywhere, their judgements will fade.
Before long you'll just be "the girl who blogs"
In the beginning of sharing the news with friends/family you might feel like you're "the girl who's hopelessly trying to blog." But the more you share it and the more people get used to it as just another part of who you are, you'll just be "a girl who blogs" like you are a girl who does ballet or is allergic to cats or was a child activist (just me?).
In summary, if you kinda want to share your blog with the people in your 'real' life, it'll probably be better than you expect. With a few of these tips, you can practically make sure of it. And if you want to keep your 'blog life' (lol) and your 'real life' completely separate, that's okay too! Everybody's got their own reasons and ways.
Do you openly share your blog with your friends or family? Let me know in the comments!