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Build your perfect self care sunday // 5 steps

Chances are, you don't have much free time. Nobody does these days, and it's often 'cooler' or more respected if you don't. But that's kind of lame because, let's be real, everybody needs some free time in order to not go completely crazy.

And the good thing is, even if it seems like you don't have any, it's always possible to make some. If you're shaking your head right now, thinking "no, that's definitely not possible, I'm fully booked" then this is the part where I say, "yeah I used to think that too until I watched this TED talk." So go watch the TED talk, girl. (But then come back here because I worked hard on this post)

So the point is, there's always time to spend on self care and relaxing if you make it a priority. I've talked in the past about how there's two kinds of free time: the kind that you make for yourself, and the kind that seeps in between the cracks and ends up infesting three hours of your time when you don't mean for it to. There's a difference between making yourself a decked out bubble bath because you want some me-time and finding yourself in a netflix spiral that quickly turns from one episode to four. The difference is that one action was intentional, and one was not.

When we don't make time for self care and me-time, here's what happens: we go-go-go until we exhaust ourselves and then the need for free time seeps into the cracks and hijacks the whole mission. Free time hates being neglected, you see.

So I have a challenge for us. This week, as you're planning out all your responsibilities and schedules, pencil in a self care Sunday. It doesn't have to be on a Sunday. Basically it's just a day (or most of a day) that you dedicate to self care and intentional free time. It's a day whose soul purpose is to help you chill the heck out.

And don't fill it with stuff you should be doing like cleaning your room or learning how to use Lightroom. Fill it with the stuff you genuinely feel like doing. 


Step one: Block out your free time 

It might not be super easy to find a chunk of a day that you can do this, but really try. You deserve it, after all. As Laura Vandercam said in the video I liked above (watch it), if your sink needed fixing you'd find the time to get a plumber. It would be a priority, and no matter how busy you are, you'd find the time. So make yourself a priority, at least for a day. Write it in your planner don't schedule anything else during that time.

Step two: Brainstorm what you need

Since self care is such a broad topic (it's basically anything that makes you feel good) it can feel like the sort of term that means everything and nothing at the same time. So instead of trying to do everything and nothing during your self care Sunday (that wouldn't be very relaxing) focus on what you need. Being the moderately stressed, tired, overly-inspired girl that you are (or at least that's what I am) figure out what you need. Here are some examples:
  • I need some zen time. 
  • I need to be 100% relaxed. 
  • I need a chance to escape and explore. 
  • I need some time to be completely mindless and turn my brain off. 
  • I need a chance to be creative just for fun. 

Step three: Brainstorm ways to achieve those things 

Now here's the good stuff: what you're actually going to do. Now that you know what your stressed self needs, plan out what you can specifically do to chill out and give yourself what you need. Here are a few of my ideas.

Need some zen? Try a meditation app, do some yoga, listen to a mindfulness podcast, go for a 'mindful walk,' turn your phone on airplane mode for an hour or two, write in your journal, go to bed early.

Need some classic relaxation/ pampering? Take a decked out bath, read a book in your bed, drink tea, listen to a podcast, give yourself a manicure, use a face mask, burn lots of candles, do some stretching.

Need some mindless, no-brain time?  Plan to watch a few episodes of a new show, stay in your pajamas all day, bounce around on silly and heart-warming corners of the internet, watch your favorite comfort movies (mine are Lala Land and Spotlight, weirdly), and make yourself some popcorn to go with it.

Need to escape and explore? Go for a run/ walk on a nice day, go for a hike, bike ride around town, wander around your city and find places you haven't been before, lie on the beach (or in your sunny back yard), do something you wouldn't normally do alone (like going to a movie, visiting a museum, eating out, etc), take a fun exercise class, go to an antique store or flea market.

Step four: Commit to it but don't be ridiculous 

So as I said before, you deserve to make yourself a priority. Pencil your 'self care Sunday' into your calendar and stick to it. But at the same time, don't stay up till 1 am because you haven't finished everything on your self-care to do list. That's just ridiculous and not how this works. This is a to-do list free zone. The point here is to do the things that you genuinely want to do and that feel good, not to "accomplish" anything.

Step five: Enjoy it and don't feel guilty 

I'm the kind of person who simultaneously wastes time and thinks about all the things I should be doing. But when you're taking intentional time for yourself, you shouldn't a.) feel like you're wasting it or b.) be thinking about the other things you could be doing. Taking time for yourself is just as important.

I'm going to try and plan some self-care time for this week, and do my best to stick to it. Let me know if you decide to do the same!

♡ Julia


  1. Great tips! I love the idea of a 'self care sunday'. I'd love a good bubble bath with a book. ;)


    1. Ah, me too. Sounds so nice right now. Thanks for reading!

  2. I like the distinction between intentional and unintentional free time; it makes so much sense. I had almost a whole day at home Saturday, and it was perfection. Not gonna lie though, half the reason I had so much fun was that I did laundry and cleaned like crazy. Since I work full time and also try to keep house and have a crazy social schedule, a day of getting that kind of thing accomplished fills me with a glow for days.

    1. That's true, I get a whole lot of satisfaction out of being productive sometimes. Everybody relaxes in different ways! As long as you're making time for yourself ;)

  3. I already do Sunday self care and love it. One of the things that relaxes me and I enjoy doing is painting my nails. For some reason it makes me super happy!

    1. That's a great thing to do for self care! I love painting my nails too and I wish I did it more often. :) Thanks for reading!

  4. I absolutely love the idea of a whole day of self-care!

    Le Stylo Rouge

  5. I work Sundays :( I will try to implement your tips tho :) xx

    LAURA ­| Laura Thinks About

    1. I work Sundays quite often too, actually. You can dedicate any day (not just Sunday) to self care though! Or even a part of a day.

  6. Such a great post! It's so important to unwind and have a little me time :)


  7. This is such a great idea! Thanks for sharing these wonderful tips!


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